I think part of the problem is that culture is an overloaded word with multiple occasionally slightly overlapping definitions which means that if you are uniformed about the context it can be slightly hard to grasp which definition is being used: The phrase "rape culture" uses the last definition of the word culture but I bet a lot of people elide that definition mentally with the third definition which would make statements like 'It's basically accusing everyone who is a part of society as being an accessory to rape' make sense. There is a rape culture in the broader melting pot that is modern American culture, just as there are youth cultures and drug cultures. You are not necessarily a part of it, just as you are probably not a part of a modern youth culture if you are over thirty, but it is a very pervasive culture and enmeshed in the broader culture in lots of subtle ways. Secondly, it is possible to be a minor enabler of the normalization of sexual violence (that then, lowers the bar for potential rapists) without being a willing accessory to every rape that happens. All you have to do is be born into our current society and continue acting within some of it's current norms around sexual behaviour without investigating and challenging them. Just as people who lived during the era of widespread slavery would largely have been minor enablers of the 'slave culture' without actually owning any slaves and without bearing any direct individual responsibility for the institution that it was. I don't think we believe that all people who lived during the time of widespread slavery were evil, so we should not think the same of people today who live within and alongside the normalisation of sexual violence. However, the people we tend to regard as heroic from the time of widespread slavery are those who recognized that something wasn't right, challenged it, ultimately fought against it and won victories. Just in case this is a little too abstract I thought I'd put down some of the things that for me help identify the rape culture Young men and women being taught that sex is something that women are the gatekeepers of and that men have to fight to get at. The routine objectification, inappropriate sexualisation, reduction and dehumanisation of women based on their choice of clothes or physical attributes. The idolisation of men with a large number of sexual partners compared to the demonisation of women with same. The strong stigma attached to virginity and single-dom in general in young men. This is present for women too to some extent but tends to come later in life and is less aggressive.