I think where you are coming unstuck is in the idea that there are two in any way comparable 'sides' to this conflict, the power balance is wildly tilted in multiple axis. On the one hand you have Israel which is a first world country with a stable democratic leadership, a fairly strong economy and a humongous, in terms of their population, conventional military - with tanks, a navy, jets and nuclear missiles. On the other 'side' you have a collection of people divided into two groups already. Half of them live in a giant slum that is often 50% composed of perpetual rubble, they are allowed no police force to keep order and their leaders that do rise up from the rubble are regularly assassinated, their military strength consists of largely hand held rockets smuggled in through a firmly enforced blockade. A child growing up in Gaza, I suspect more often than not with a dead father, has a very small set of life outcomes available to them, in US terms it is like the stereotypical ghetto child x100. Contrast that with a child growing up in Israel who has the entire universe of possibilities that coming from a first world country allows. There aren't really two sides in this conflict there is a side that has power and choices and a people that have neither. You can see one example of this supremely unbalanced power dynamic in the widely differing casualty rates, despite Israel apparently turning the other cheek they regularly kill around 500x to 1000x more Palestinians than are killed in return. I didn't even get into the concrete and sizeable backing Israel has enjoyed and continues to enjoy from the worlds most powerful economy & military in the US. In answer to your second point, Israel is very good at the whole pretending to turn the other cheek to the world because what often goes unreported is the daily aggression of 'settlement' construction and expansion on Palestinian land. While it might seem like Israel occasionally isn't killing Palestinians or stoutly ignoring rocket fire more often than not they are arbitrarily stealing more and more Palestinian land in the manner of colonial era Europeans. This activity not only directly takes land from Palestinian's who were using it for other purposes it also undermines the future viability of a two states solution. Settlement is perpetuated entirely by aggressive zealots who are just as genocidal in their rhetoric as Hamas, but they don't need to fire rockets because they have tanks, bulldozers and are allowed concrete (plus they have an entire professional army defending them). Just so we're clear it's not anti-semitism to point out the depth to which Israel has now sunk either. Israel is not the Jewish people as a whole and the state of Israel is functioning modern state so it has its own internal dissent that will often sound a lot like the things you read in this thread. There are people in Israel very much aware that their safe haven has transformed slowly into a modern day version of apartheid era South Africa and that the current leadership is perhaps the most dangerously unhinged that the country has seen. If anything it is pro-Israel to try and fight for a two state solution because the problem with Israel's current powerful dominance in the mid east is that it is fighting hard against long term trends in economics, technological advancement and demographics. At some point not too long from now the US won't be the world's largest super power, eventually the Palestinians will outnumber the Israelis and also, despite the efforts of the US, Israel's neighbours will one day likely have the same nuclear misery button that Israel has. Getting a peaceful outcome sorted out now while Israel has the upper hand in negotiations is the pro-Israel solution.