Wait wat Probably because I have some self-esteem issues, I tend to be pretty oblivious to when someone might be into me. With one of my exes, I was SO oblivious she finally had to say, "Can I lie on top of you?" Until then, we'd just been musical partners - she sang and I played guitar in coffeehouses around town. I mean, when an attractive chick asks you a question like that, what do you say other than, "Um, sure"? She later turned out to be a cheating hussy, but that's beside the point.