On that topic, it's something I've been told once, I was wearing shorts and some random dude in the street told me I should "respect myself more". I think he was calling me a slut ? Whatever, my point is, I'm currently in a monogamous relationship because my partner is very monogamous and it would hurt his feeling if I were to date around. Well, I'm just not being a jerk to him, I'm not feeling "better about myself" for acting like a decent human being. I don't think any monogamous person ever is patting themselves on the back, going all "hey I'm only fucking with one partner, what a great dude/dudette I am !". It only makes sense that people who have sex with multiple partners don't feel better about themselves either. It also reminds me of all the homophobic jerks that have been roaming the streets and shouting that gay marriage was a bad idea because gay people would then be allowed to adopt. One of their main argument was "oh but the children with gay couples for parents would be mocked in school, that's why we can't let that happen !". So yeah "we're homophobic and our homophobia will make these children suffer, so let's not allow those couples to adopt". We're facing the same kind of non-sense here. "I will shame people from having sex with multiple partners BECAUSE I think people who have sex with multiple partners don't feel good about themselves." Of course they won't be okay with themselves if there's judgmental assholes to harass them. Actually, I'm enjoying all the historic context everyone is giving, I'm learning (and relearning, because school was quite a fair number of years ago) a lot. So thank you everybody for being so well learned ! I like you.