It's a concern everywhere. These attitudes are deeply ingrained in our society and they can come from anyone and stab you right in the back. You have no idea how many times I've thought I had a decent connection with a dude only for him to pull out the "can't be as bad as you say why are you over-reacting like this" card out on me. You have a negative view of guys jumping in to aggressively smack down shit, but those guys are a big part of the reason I am more comfortable opening up about stuff here than I have in other places in the past. If someone decided to throwdown that I am a paranoid bitch who needs to be sorted out *wink wink* I know those guys would not have a good chuckle and give him a high five. Or just passively permit it by ignoring the entire exchange as a joke. That we have a great number of women here is also a big part of why I can talk about these issues, but having men who support the cause to is valuable because then it's not ZOMG GENDER WARZ, it's decent people vs assholes.